Thursday, June 3, 2010

Wedding Etiquette: Your Questions, Answered

Planning your wedding is exciting, but it's not without its challenges. Here are a few common wedding planning questions along with a suggested answer. Feel free to comment with your own perspective!

Q: "Should I invite my co-workers to my wedding?"
A: Only invite your co-workers to your wedding if you consider them to be very good friends. Just like the rest of your guest list, think about whose presence will add to the significance of your wedding day. Send your wedding invitations to your co-workers' home addresses as opposed to hand delivering them. And of course, minimize wedding-related talk at the office.

Q: "Our guest list is out of control. How do my fiancé and I decide who to invite and who to cut?"
A: Make an A-list and a B-list. A's are family and your closest friends. B's are everyone else - high school & college friends, parents' friends, etc. Send out your A-list invites early to gauge the RSVP rate. Cut the B-list down by asking yourself questions like, When did you last speak to that person? Would having that person at your wedding make or break your experience? Also, don't feel obligated to put "and guest" on your single friends' invitations, especially if they know others at the wedding.

Q: "Is it ok to call people if I haven't received their RSVP response card?"
A: Of course! Don't assume that someone you took the time to invite isn't coming if you haven't received their card. After all, their response card could be hidden in a stack of old mail. Better safe than sorry, right?

Q: "Wedding finances are so complicated! Who is supposed to pay for what?"
A: The short answer is that you have to figure out what works best for you and your fiancé - and your families. Check out this article from that pretty much explains it all.

Q: "My fiancé and I are having a small wedding. How can I be sure not to offend my non-invited friends?"
A: Simply explain that that the nature of your wedding makes it impossible to invite absolutely everyone in your lives. While you can't help it if a friend's feelings get hurt, hopefully they'll look at it from your position, and will understand.

Do you have any unanswered questions about wedding etiquette? Did you navigate through a sticky situation, and want to share your experience? Let us know in the comments!

1 comment:

Suzanne said...

Such great advice that every bride needs to know!